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Purity Is Not A Cultural Value
By Administrator | September 16, 2005
“Let’s face it, purity is not a cultural value. Neither is modesty. While adultery is still frowned upon in most quarters, the impropriety that leads to adultery is actually encouraged, even celebrated. Similarly, teenage pregnancy is still considered a social evil. But again, the activities, fashion, and music that drive adolescents in that direction are not generally frowned upon. Parents fund the very activities that create the context for the act they consider so abhorrent. As long as we take our cues from the culture, purity and modesty will always be in the rearview mirror. Those lines will be crossed without a second thought. And once those lines are crossed, sexual misconduct is one easy decision away.” (The Best Question Ever, Andy Stanley)
I know a few weeks ago I wrote on the Early Lure Of the Culture. However, this morning while reading the above quote, its power and clarity inspired me to re-visit the topic.
I have been thinking of the “little” battles we face in those early years. I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to teach young children, even preschoolers, the importance of not following the common culture. Earlier this week I was talking to a teacher who was saddened that a previous student she had in her fifth grade class already had fallen into the trap of dressing and looking “fashionable” according to our common culture. This teacher mentioned that while a flat chested 11 year old was not drawing looks with her lower, loose neckline and bare belly, but what was this going to lead to next? In the sixth grade she got to wear makeup and wear it she did! The question I ask again – what is next? When, or more frightening where does it stop?
My prayer for you is to win the “little” battles well before they become the “big” battles. While sitting at the chiropractor yesterday I was thumbing through an investment magazine. In an upcoming products article they showed a Barbie style doll that looked like a hooker! Who would buy this doll for their little girl? I pray that the “activities, fashion and music” in your home, from a young age on will be acceptable to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. And please – PLEASE, don’t feel like you have to fund inappropriate “activities, fashion and music”! When you have to say “no”, be loving but firm. As they grow older teach and train them why the culture’s ways lead to trouble. Remember “As long as we take our cues from the culture, purity and modesty will always be in the rearview mirror.”
May God’s grace and peace be with you,
Mark Strohm, Jr.
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