Take Control Of Your Child’s Value Structure


This week I heard Dr. Richard Swenson, author of several books including The Overload Syndrom and Margins, speak at a convention. (He was great! If you want to see what he has written check it out here: swenson ) He made several statements that I am still processing. One particularly disturbing statement was directed toward parents. He said “Parents have lost control of the value structure of their kids.”

He was talking to a Christian audience. I missed whatever he said next just thinking about the statement. The media saturated culture has influenced our children even if they do not come in direct contact with a steady stream of anti Christian media inside our homes. When my children were younger there were many TV shows Ellen and I did not allow them to watch. Yet, my children always seemed to know about these shows! We carefully selected which radio stations and which types of music we allowed in our home. But again, our children knew much of the music without it ever being played in our house.

So do we throw in the towel and give up? Absolutly not! The days are evil so it calls for a much more agressive approach to parenting. Please, please, please protect your homes. Make your home a “safe house” for your child.   We have to recognize that the influences of the world will reach their eyes and ears. But don’t let it be in your home.  Block inappropriate TV, get a filter for the internet, etc.  (Want to learn about filters?  Visit: CyberSafetySeminar.com where I list multiple filters and some basics about each one.  You will also find instructions on how to turn on ‘safe searching’ for major internet search engines.)
Instead of passively allowing the media and the world to shape your family’s value system, aggressively counter their warped influence with God’s truth. Talk about the differences between the sets of values and views. Point out Scripture and talk about why you have chosen to make it your guide. Why you surrender your will and follow Jesus Christ and His ways. We do not live in a time and era where we can afford to be passive parents.

Go ahead and place before your children viable alternatives. Get them Christian music. Put on the Christian radio stations. (You can see Christian music here: music )  Read reviews from Plugged In and make wise choices about which movies and TV shows to see.  Explain why you made these decisions.  (You can visit them here: Plugged In)
Finally, bathe your children in prayer.  The truth is, we can’t win this battle on our own.  Cry out and ask the Lord to help you.

Psalm 25:8,9,12
Good and upright is the Lord;
therefore he instructs sinners in the way.
He leads the humble in what is right,
and teaches the humble his way.
Who is the man who fears the Lord?
Him will he instruct in the way that he should choose.

May God’s grace and peace be with you,
Mark Strohm, Jr.

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