If you want to make sure your son has trouble with the ever present, ever available flood of pornography make sure you take the following steps:
1. Pretend only a few twisted men find pornography to be a temptation.
If you catch your son with pornography make sure you let him know he must be part of the twisted group! Obviously anyone who is “normal” would never have such temptations.
2. Let him know he does not need God’s help to stop being tempted by pornography because all he has to do is choose to stop.
Obviously, anyone who has trouble looking at that stuff is choosing to do so. Just stop being a fool and choose to stop looking. That should fix it.
3. Decide all “roadblocks” to keep your child away from pornography are too complicated, too expensive or unnecessary.
Remember, since this is your son’s fault, and all he has to do is choose to stop, why should you have to learn about filters or keep the computer in a common room, etc.? Keep all your cable premium movie channels, cell phone data packages and never, never mess with an internet filter.
4. Do not offer to work with your son.
Accountability takes time and effort and you should not have to be bothered. Live your life the way you want, no need to alter your life because your son made some bad choices.
5. Pretend pornography’s temptation is easy to fix and any further battle is a disgrace.
Simply act as if you and your spouse never had any battles when you were young. If you discover evidence that your son is having a battle get angry and tell him that he is sick!
6. Never offer to get outside help.
There should not be any need for books, talks with pastors or counselors. All of that will be a waste of money so don’t bother!
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Want to really help your child with pornography? Then follow these 6 steps:
6 Essential Steps To Help Your Son Stand Up Against Pornography
1. Admit That Temptation Is Common
We were created with a sexual drive. God desires for us to fulfill that sexual drive through marriage. The truth is we are also born with a sin nature. That sin nature draws us away from what God intended. If we admit this temptation is real we will be willing to follow a path which will help us take a stand against viewing pornography. If we deny or ignore this temptation we are setting ourselves up for trouble.
2. Ask God For Help
If you have not already turned to Jesus Christ and admitted that you are a sinner who cannot be good enough on your own, then you need to turn to Him and ask Him to save you from a life of sin. (Please contact your local church to find out more about this important step.) Remember, you cannot force your child to make this decision, but you should encourage them to seek God’s help.
Once we admit our weakness to God we need to pray and seek Him for help in taking a stand. If your child is willing, pray with them. Prayer is a key in this battle. Only through God’s grace can we or our children stand up against this temptation.
3. Create Roadblocks
After admitting and praying, now you need to set your child up to succeed. Do whatever you have to in order to make accessing pornography difficult for your son. Here are some suggestions.
a. Don’t subscribe to cable movie channels. If you have them, cancel the subscription.
b. Take advantage of cell phone services to block accessibility to pornography though applications, etc. These are typically set up for younger children, but are useful to others as well.
c. Install an internet filter. I suggest Safe Eyes. As a parent, you be the administrator of the filter. Keep the administrator password a secret.
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4. Be Willing To Work With Your Son
Accountability is a key to success. You want to set your son up for success so work with him and help keep him from temptation in all areas of life. Make sure your son is active in fulfilling his God given desire to be a warrior and defender of others. Treat your son with respect and hold him accountable to treat others with respect!
5. Expect a Battle
Remember, temptations don’t magically go away. Many boys will struggle with this temptation so be aware and keep your guard up. If your son has struggled for a while, it is unlikely he will gain complete victory quickly. Continue to guard him and help him guard himself. Accountability will be key.
6. Find Outside Help If Needed
For some, this battle turns into an addiction. If you have done the above and find yourself dealing with a son who is consumed by and constantly figuring out how to view pornography, you should seek professional help. A pastor or someone can guide you to professional Christian counseling.
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